Feb. 28, 2025 | Demir Antay

Importance of Mental Health in this Age

Why is it that we are all suffering mentally right now? Because we are not prepared for this age.

At least not right now, but that does not mean we never will.

Maybe even less than 10 years ago or even 5, people didn’t even care about words like anxiety and depression; they did not even know the difference between personality disorders and mental illnesses.

Going to therapy was considered a weak move, but right now, it is praised as something all of us should do.

Things like “deculttering” and doing “minimalism” to get rid of the junk in your home to clear out mental space for yourself.

All of this is so new. We are at the start of it.

Therapy was considered a weakness

Right now, everybody on instagram tries to soothe you in some way or the other.

There are mental health workshops, yoga classes, anxiety-wavering weekend for student before their exams, etc.

It’s everywhere.

If you tried to do that maybe a short of 20 years ago people would just label you as weak.

Think about it: students wanting a weekend retreat before their exams? You just studied at your house, showed up, and if you were stressed, it meant you were somebody normal.

Well, even though there is some truth to the fact that we are becoming weaker as a society, that does not mean therapy is useless.

Our brains are not well adapted to this new age where dopamine is free and cheap everywhere.

That is the new alcoholism, and if we don’t fix it just like the old times, we will lose our families, ourselves, our dreams, and our hopes in the process.

The new age of socializing is mental health. That is the new social currency and the wing we fly on.

Before this, it used to be dining tables.

If you look closely at the past 500 years, we have literally formed our society around how much food you have and how decorative your dining table is.

There was a theatre going on around there, the father sat at the corner. The mother served. The kids listened and the staple question of “how was your day?”.

Everything was ordered.

Everything was hierarchical.

We needed that theatre in order to survive because without any ordered way of atomic family structure, it is nearly impossible to organise humans.

If we learn it at home we can implement it in other areas such as the businesses, social groups .etc.

People respected their given roles, and it was beautiful at the time, I suppose. That is what my elder family members keep telling me.

But here is the problem.

Everybody has a broken or a nearly broken family right now.

Divorce is 60%, and how many of the others are staying for the kids, do you think?

I think it is safe to say that only 20% of these marriges are long lasting and filled with love. Everybody else had to submit to that theatre we played before.

Nobody wants to date or get married anymore because we saw from our parents how lonely it was to stay in a house with no love.

Mental Health As An Alternative

Well, our parents did not know attachment types, their mental struggles, personality disorders after childhood trauma, or genetic disposition for mental illnesses.

Instead of helping each other become the best version we could be, we had to submit to a masculine-feminine archtype ideal that was set up on us by everybody else, and you either submitted or had a broken family.

That is why mental health helps.

We are no longer chained by ideals. If we learn how to love ourselves mentally and healthily, we can love others.

Not because of an ideal, but because we want to.

Here are things you can search and read if you want to focus on mental health.

• First of all, you have to start learning about mental health.

  You can start with evergreen content from therapy channels like the school of life.

  They are usually a great start for beginners. I started with it and found it to be a great help, I still use it today; the information on there is so evergreen.

• Definitely learn about your “attachment style”, of course, once you go in depth about this topic you will learn many things but even this part shows whether you will have a successful financial life or a successful family life.

  Work and family time are not separate, they fuel each other one hundred percent.

  That is why we see a disconnect in today's generation of not wanting to work. Who are we working for?

  We are all lonely, so what is the point?

  In order to not ask that question, learn about this.

• Try to start journaling and writing your thoughts.

  This is a very important habit to organise your thoughts and give clarity to the mind.

  Journaling has been used by the greatest minds throughout human history. It is one of our greatest tools.

• There is a fully free online course on Coursera from Yale University.

  It is called “The science of well being”.

  It has been one of the greatest courses I have ever taken.

• Start meditating for at least 10 minutes a day.

  Alongside journaling, meditation is one of the most powerful tools you can use to calm the mind.

  It is the missing link.

This is enough for somebody who is beginning to care for their mental health.

This is what I have done when I started, with these writings, in the mental health category I will first catch up to what I have done in my life.

After that, I wanna focus on the present and the future ways of mental health habits that I am implementing and trying out.

This is it for today's writing, I hope you liked it.

Have a nice day, and thank you for reading.

Demir